Hi, if you're reading this.


I really was conflicted first of all about writing this and number two about sharing it with the world.  I figured, though, why shouldn't I share it? So nobody has to endure what I did. So none of the young girls just figuring out their lives will have to wonder if it's normal when their boyfriend pushes them around...like they deserve it or something.


This is my story about being a military spouse.  No, I am not writing this to get back at anyone because I am spiteful. This is my 100% truth and something that will help me move on and grow from this.

Before I say much more this may be a trigger to anyone who has been abused, so if you have been I encourage you to stop reading right now.

So, let's begin my story.

It all started when I met Matt out in Revelstoke. He was doing avalanche control.  We met, got drunk and I'm sure you know what happened next. Little did I know until later in the night, that he had a girlfriend. He was relentless when it came to convincing me he wanted to date me, and eventually I gave in....but with guidelines. I told him to break up with his girlfriend if he was truly serious, and he did and showed me the screenshots. Or so I thought.. So we started our long distance relationship, and he got married in that time. Married.  Keep in mind, I had no idea. Fast forward about a year and I moved out to Manitoba to be with him. While he was married, I didn't know. Anyways, I lived with him for about 2.5 years. He was an abusive alcoholic. He was even arrested for pushing me, and I lied for him because I was SCARED. Terrified. While he was removed from the house he cheated on me. And after his charges were "dropped" he got promoted.  If only he was arrested for every time he pushed me around.

I remember once, he completely threw me onto the couch and choked me. I thought i was going to die. I actually left the house after and called his mom and sister and told them what happened. They told me not to call the cops because they didn't want him to lose his job. Is that actually what this world is coming to?

The point of this blog is that I don't want other girls to feel like they have to hide their abuse. It is NOT OKAY for the guy you are with to verbally demean you, or to push you around even IF he says sorry. It just isn't.

And if anyone thinks I'm "defaming" or "slandering" then you're wrong, this is the 100 percent truth. If you don't believe me, go to Manitoba, where there's probably still a hole in the wall about the same size as my head where I was thrown through it.